Sandra McDonald

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It's all subjective

I did a guest post at Heroines of Fantasy about feminism, warrior babes, Slave Leia's costume in Return of the Jedi, and generally missing the point . . . and the first commenter, a guy, said "I dunno.  I think it's all subjective."

Which is a classic way of sustaining any kind of prejudice: "it's all subjective."  When we say that, we avoid taking a stand, we avoid critical thinking, and we avoid any in-depth examination of the topic.  "It's all subjective," we say, waving our hand.  "Who can say?"  

I reject the notion that tweens dress sexily because they feel empowered by our society to do so. I hate a lot of fantasy book covers.  I think "being feminine" means you don't have to wear makeup, that you don't have to have big boobs, that you can be a boy, that you can be lots of things. I think The Handmaid's Tale should be required reading for everyone.

"I dunno.  I think it's all subjective." 

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I know! I was flummoxed by that.

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Very nice! I like them all -- had never heard of Blenda, something maybe to chew over for a story . . .

Oh, I like that! Definitely going into the bookmarks.

Just because I didn't necessarily agree with you, doesn't mean I missed your point. Women can be empowered, regardless of how skimpy their outfits are. How puritanical their outfits are, etc. Though I can't personally say that a porn star or a prostitute is necessarily empowered, who am I to disagree with them if they feel they are? And even a skimpy dressed 13 year old has the ability to say, "I'm not going to be arrested or executed for wearing what I am wearing." Isn't that somewhat empowering? Also, my comment wasn't too far off from others (including the previous week's thread), but since you assume I am a male, my argument has been rendered invalid due to some dangling meat between my legs. Really?

It IS all subjective, btw. One person's perception of power and empowerment is often different than another person's. I don't believe any one person has the authority to decide what is best for everyone else sharing their plumbing. Some would say that women in the military are just aping masculine roles. Others would say that feminine tropes and standards are foisted upon them to keep them subjugated to the "male gaze." Others will disagree. You can go between Paglia and Steinem all you want, but the truth is there is no one truth. And marginalizing someone's opinion due to "mansplaining" is not only offensive, but obtuse.

If my opinion was to confined to only my Male perspective, there should have been a sign posted on the treehouse first saying "No boys allowed." That has never been my experience at Heroines of Fantasy--until now.

"It's all subjective" is a fundamental error in thinking, whether you are male or female.

Well, that's just like your opinion, man.

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LOL at the video. And I do think that's a great slogan - "Give Isabela pants!"

I posted about how excited I was when Battlestar Galactica put the women in uniforms like the men's. I never did get why the women on Star Trek would wear miniskirts.

Oh, I know! And I was thinking of Deanna Troi the other day, of how she was dressed in long flowing "feminine" clothing the first few years, and later got to wear an actual uniform.

Was rewatching Voyager the other day....none of the flowy stuff for Janeway! (We won't discuss Seven's garb, though. Sadly, I always wondered if Kess was replaced because she wasn't sex-pot enough)

Reminds me of a big-deal meeting we had with a client, and I made a presentation on what we thought we should do to win the case. And one of the clients said, "Well, that's just an issue of semantics." And I snapped, "If by semantics you mean what words mean, then yes."

Love it!

It's like when students ask me if spelling and grammar are important in a paper for English class . . .

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